Sometimes the air of change freaks out just about everyone around you. They don’t know what it means, they don’t know what to expect, and they start to wonder if things will ever be as they once were… will you even be in their life?
Change scares people, but the reality is that most people are unhappy and change is actually the solution – it’s growth. I was petrified of changing and it took me a great number of years working on myself to finally let it in.
And do you know what?
I’m finally really happy… like REALLY happy.
Sure there are parts of my life that haven’t improved yet, but that’s ok because they will when they are meant to. I can feel the changes every moment, with every breath and every thought.
I know only good things will come of this, because I’m listening to my heart, not my head with other people’s thoughts and restricted societal rules. No thank you! I know what is best for me.
The easiest way to work this out if to make space in your brain. Space includes getting rid of all of those thoughts that jump into your mind at every chance they get. Try closing your eyes, breathe in slowly (try a count of 4), and breath out slowly. If you start to think “I need to” “I should” “I have to”, acknowledge the thought and let it float away. Acknowledge it and say goodbye. Sit there for as long as you can and just breathe. Create space for your soul so you can hear it speak.
Then pay attention to your calm and collected thoughts, no matter how odd they seem.
Be confident that you know what is true for you and only you know the best way to move forward.
If the people around you get worried, defensive, or start to question you, please know they are acting out of fear. Fear of loss, fear of abandonment, fear of being alone. Try to see underneath and then understand with compassion that they are simply reacting and they are doing the best they can with what they know.
You may need to walk away for a little while and that’s ok. If you act from the heart and with love you cannot truly hurt another. They are simply hurting themselves because they don’t understand. Don’t judge, simply forgive and move on.
Chances are one day they will thank you for it. Change is an essential part of everyone’s growth.
You don’t have to change everything at once. Just start with one thing, no matter how small.
With Infinite Love and Gratitude,
Lauren
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