“How are you?”
“Are you ok?”
I’ve been ruminating over these questions lately, the ones that simply fall out of our mouths because they have been programmed into us from such a young age that we do not even think before they pass our lips.
I find them quite annoying to be honest.
Tell me really, do you REALLY want to know how I am?
Chances are you aren’t going to like what I have to say. But it isn’t because it’s bad. It’s awkward. It’s uncomfortable. It’s not going to be “I’m good”, “I’m ok” or any of those things.
It’s quite a deep question that we ask, expecting a shallow, socially acceptable response.
Right now I might not be ok.
I might feel like I’m dying on the inside.
But I know I will be ok.
And often times it feels that what isn’t ok, is for me to say I’m not ok, because that makes the person in front of me uncomfortable, maybe worried about me, like they need to fix whatever is wrong.
Nothing is wrong.
Nothing needs fixing.
As I navigate what seem to be deeper waters than ever before, that terrify the child within me, it takes all that I am to keep going.
And if you ask me that question, and I answer “I’m good” I am dismissing the truth, and hiding what is real. I am denying me.
Because it breaks my heart and burns my Soul when I have to pretend.
None of us should have to pretend.
We need to leave the bullsh*t at the door and have some real conversations.
I honestly don’t care what car you drive, about your house renovations or your career.
I want to know what’s deep inside you.
I want you to honour what is real.
I want you to honour your reality.
I want you to honour how you feel.
And I want you to know that your heart is safe, to share the truth, and rest a while with me.
Because you will be ok, I will be ok, we will all be ok, if we don’t deny our reality.
Stronger together in truth,